As a therapist, it can be really difficult to acknowledge that you are struggling.
You’ve bought into that myth that says in order to be a good clinician you need to have your own life figured out. You are worried that you won’t be able to take off your own therapist hat long enough to not “see through” everything another therapist is doing with you in session. You’re afraid to tell a mental health professional in your community how much you are struggling, for fear they will judge you, think you’re not a good therapist, or worse yet, tell other professionals about your difficulties. You are worried that being in pain means you can’t be a good therapist and being a good therapist is a core aspect of your identity. Being in pain yourself doesn’t mean you aren’t doing great therapy, but it does mean it’s time for you to be looked after, too.
Maybe you’ve tried therapy before and haven’t found that deep connection that works for you. This is one of my strengths. In therapy, I get to core issues quickly and hold space for you to take a compassionate look at what is going on in your life and whether there are things you want to do differently to change old, unhelpful patterns. I can help you keep the painful experiences of your past from interfering in your promising future.
If you’ve been in the field for a hot minute, you know this work is not easy. You hold a lot of difficult emotions, memories, experiences and situations for your clients. You absorb it, process it, help sort through it, and then are told you should leave it at the office—not always easy to do. When you are busy making space for others’ pain, it can be difficult to make space for your own.
And that’s why having a therapist you can trust to see you—the real you—becomes so important. You want to work with a therapist whose experiences you can draw from—who knows how to deal with both the personal and professional sides of life. You might even want a therapist who can provide a bit of coaching along the way—not telling you what to do, but someone who can deeply understand you as a person and understand how your personhood may show up in your therapeutic work. My support becomes informed by what I know about you as a person and what I know about your personal background.
In the course of our therapy work, I can provide some perspective from someone who has been there before, in a way that feels meaningful and transformative. I was trained as a long-term psychodynamic therapist and have broadened my knowledge and skills with ACT and EFT training. Over the years I have worked in a number of different clinical settings. Additionally, I have years of experience training therapists, so I can offer some perspective around how our personal issues can impact our work as therapists.
If this sounds like a good fit, please contact me today!