You have your own office (maybe even the “corner office”?), a nice salary, a great spouse, amazing children…but something doesn’t feel quite right. You are so busy that you go through each day on autopilot. When you have a minute to stop and think, you can acknowledge something feels missing, but you don’t know what it is. Others would say you should be happy, but deep down inside, you realize success hasn’t given you the life you’ve always wanted.
You probably find yourself wondering, “what’s wrong with me?” You’ve spent so much time and energy meeting your career goals that you are only now realizing that other important aspects of your life are suffering. You’ve probably stopped spending time with friends, extended family, hobbies. Your primary relationship feels unsatisfying, or you worry it is not working out, if you have even made time for a significant, romantic relationship. If you are being really honest with yourself, you don’t even know how you would want to spend your time outside work. You’ve made a lot of sacrifices in order to get your career where you want it, but the cost of those sacrifices is pervasive loneliness, constant anxiety and deep unhappiness. You are filling the hole of your disconnection with unhealthy habits like not sleeping enough, drinking too much or not eating or exercising well—generally not taking care of yourself the way you know you should. And, the scariest part of all this is that you are starting to realize that your dissatisfaction is starting to show up at work.
If you’re struggling with feelings like this, you’ve come to the right place. I am an experienced therapist, with a doctorate in psychology, who has helped hundreds of people who have felt just like you. Therapy with me will help you achieve the insights necessary to make room for more in your life. You will come to understand the influences that have created the disconnect between the life you have and the life you want and together we will figure out how to make the changes that will get you from the one you have to the one you want.
You wouldn’t put off going to a medical doctor if you had a broken arm or unexplained pain in your stomach, yet many people refuse to consider therapy despite realizing that something is not right with their mental or emotional state. Some professionals and those who are experiencing what may be casually dismissed as a “mid-life crisis” may even think they’re too old for therapy. No one is too old for therapy. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your teens or if you passed retirement age years ago. Therapy can help.
Why Dr. O’Saben?
There are a lot of therapists out there, so why am I right for you? I’m an experienced professional, and I understand the challenges you are facing. I recognize that just because you’ve met the definition of success, it doesn’t mean you will automatically be happy. It doesn’t work that way, and I have the experience to help you work through the core issues that are holding you back and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
If you’re ready to begin your journey, contact me today to schedule a free consultation.