You thought going to college would be the answer to all your problems.
That leaving home and striking out on your own would get you away from everything that’s kept you from being happy.
But navigating adulthood is daunting and there’s so much you don’t know.
You’re sure there has to be a way to move beyond the person you were in high school.
But it feels like no matter how much distance you put between your old self and who you are now,
you just can’t escape your past.
You used to think turning 18 was the answer. That it would mean you were officially an adult and all of the baggage from your childhood would disappear. As you graduated high school, moved out of your parent’s home, and started a life on your own you thrived in a new environment. In fact, it felt like you were finally free to focus on yourself.
Yet, somewhere along the way, the excitement started to fade. Your newfound freedom and autonomy didn’t make up for the fact that you still felt self-conscious and lonely. You noticed that old patterns kept coming up and you caught yourself replicating behaviors you’d seen your parents do that you swore you never would.
So, here you are feeling like you’re never going to escape the habits that hold you back
A lot of the time you feel lost and disconnected. You’re frustrated by the fact that no matter how hard you try to move beyond the way you grew up, behaviors and patterns from your childhood keep popping up. You just don’t think you’re going to make a name or a successful life for yourself.
You honestly want an independent life. One where you are separate from your upbringing and where you influence the outcomes. But you have no clue how to get out from under the painful things that happened in your past. You didn’t think it would be this hard to be an adult. You never imagined you’d still be acting like a little kid. And you certainly didn’t expect to be missing out on the best four years of your life.
When You Seek Therapy with Dr. Carol O’Saben as a College Student
- You will get to the bottom of why you continue to make poor relationship choices
- You will be able to make deep connections with others so you no longer feel isolated
- You will gain an understanding of the habitual patterns in your life and identify opportunities for change
- You will be able to finally move past hurtful experiences in your past so you can move forward without the old baggage
- You will feel more confident in yourself and more hopeful about your future
The Counseling Process for College Students
The main intention of counseling is to help you get to know yourself, so you can determine exactly what it is you want from your interactions with others. Together, you and I will use the therapeutic relationship to understand the dynamics of your life and work to clarify what is happening on an internal level to cause your unhappiness. You will work to understand the ways your past habits are impacting your present relationships and how to break out of unhelpful patterns.
Before that first session, you will be invited to create a personal online portal where you will have access to all of your clinical forms as well as the ability to set up payment information. You will need to complete these forms and submit them before you begin therapy.
Sessions are held online using Zoom/Secure Video software and you will need reliable internet to participate. Typically, counseling continues for several weeks or months, but the duration of your time in therapy will depend on the complexity of your concerns.
Here’s what to expect:
Each session is designed to capitalize on our therapeutic relationship to gain insight into the cyclical and harmful habits that have been problematic for you, thus ensuring the most healing possible. Together, you and I will connect in a comforting, virtual space with the goal of helping you reflect on the person you are and the person you want to be.
More About Dr. Carol O’Saben
As a Licensed Psychologist with almost 30 years of experience working with college students, I have seen how repeating the same old behaviors contributes to a life with poor relationships and little connection. As a down-to-earth, honest, and compassionate therapist, my job is to help you understand the factors that have been influencing you and maintaining the unhelpful/unhealthy patterns in your life. Therapy with me is about diving deep and taking ownership of the role you play in your life, so you can identify opportunities for long-lasting change. I wholeheartedly believe that lasting change comes from insight and knowing yourself. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you create positive experiences for yourself.
I make it my mission to help college and graduate students come to a deeper understanding of themselves, so they can make meaningful changes in the destructive patterns that hold them back. I am dedicated to establishing a real, supportive relationship with you through your process of self-discovery, and to help you know your value and worth. It is my passion to work with you as you create the life you deserve.
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Who Benefits Most from Counseling
Therapy for College Students is best for those who notice the same unhelpful and unhealthy patterns playing out in their lives and want to make lasting changes before they transition to fully being on their own. Counseling helps you reflect on the situations in your life and the role you play in them, so you can gain insight into the way your habits and experiences have shaped who you are.
You will benefit from therapy if:
- You keep making the same mistakes in your relationships
- You continue to receive bad reviews from professors and employers
- You recognize patterns in your behavior that you are not proud of
- You complain about the same circumstances in your life, but you don’t know how to make them better
- You’ve tried to make changes yourself, but you feel like they never last and that you’re never going to be the type of person you want to be
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for counseling sessions with me. These situations include, but are not limited to:
- Difficulty self-reflecting and taking ownership of your experiences
- A desire for a solutions-based approach that does not explore your past or your experiences
- A lack of awareness of your role in your relationships with others.
If you are currently experiencing any of these issues, I can provide you with appropriate referrals for your level of care.
What Does Therapy for College Students Cost?
Online Counseling is a fee for service program and clients can easily pay for services through their personalized online portal.
Intake sessions cost $250 and weekly therapy sessions are $150 thereafter.
I accept United, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, and Aetna insurance. For your convenience, I will check your insurance company’s mental health benefits on your behalf prior to our intake appointment, but I encourage you to do the same. You can use the “Verification of Benefits” form on the “Fees and Insurance” page of my website as a helpful guide for talking to your insurance carrier. Copays, deductibles or any out of pocket costs are due at the time of service.
When and Where Can I Schedule a Counseling Session?
All therapy sessions are held online via teletherapy software. I offer online counseling sessions for those living in Flagstaff and all residents of Arizona.
Counseling Services are offered Monday through Saturday with appointment availability ranging from 10 AM – 7 PM with additional appointments available upon request.
Your Next Steps
It is completely possible to carve out an identity for yourself regardless of what you went through as a kid. You will be able to make changes and improvements in your life without having to involve your parents or other loved ones. You will also learn to embrace who you are, so you can start to establish your own routines and behaviors that feel more in line with your values.
Establishing your own sense of independence may feel like a challenge, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take steps toward being the adult you truly want to be. You just need to learn what really matters to you and leave the rest behind.
You will find the freedom you need to live life on your own terms. And you’ll also build new relationships that aren’t constrained by who you were before you got to college. In the end, you’ll find new ways to connect with others and with yourself. I can help.
Call 928.248.8005, or email Dr. O’Saben at email@example.com to schedule your Counseling Session for College Students today.