Your sexual orientation has always had an impact on the way others see you
It’s like a label that’s been stamped into your forehead and you feel like it’s the first thing anyone notices. You’ve tried to change the way you interact with others, but no matter what you do, people still see you as “the gay one.”
You know that life has little meaning without relationships, but you struggle to connect with others on a deep level, and don’t understand why. You’re ready to explore yourself at a core level so you can let go of trying to fit into everyone else’s ideas and form authentic relationships of your own.
You’ve gotten really used to being judged. In fact, people assume they know you before they’ve even met you because their sister, cousin, or favorite TV character is gay. You’ve become really good at keeping people at a distance, so usually, it doesn’t bother you. You’re focused on other things right now and relationships just tend to get in the way.
It never really bothered you until recently, but lately, you’ve been wishing you had some special people in your life to share things with. Whether it’s a best friend or a significant other, you’d really like to feel a sense of genuine connection.
Your loneliness is starting to eat at you. You’ve tried the bars and clubs and even meeting people online, but no matter where you look, you just can’t seem to find anyone who wants more than anything superficial.
So, you find yourself wondering if the reason there’s no depth is because something’s wrong with you.
You’re starting to think the common denominator among all your failed relationships is you. You’re disappointed because no one really gets you, so you’ve alienated the few people who have tried to reach out and connect. Now it seems like you’ve gotten so distracted from all the good you have to offer that you wouldn’t know how to build a real relationship if you tried.
You truly want more out of your interactions with others. But you have no idea how to meet people who will understand who you are underneath your sexual orientation. Also, you’re not even positive you’re in touch with what you really want from your relationships to begin with. You need the guidance of someone who’s going to help you peel back your layers.
When You Seek LGBQ Therapy with Dr. Carol O’Saben:
More About Dr. Carol O’Saben
As a Licensed Psychologist with almost 30 years of experience working with LGBQ individuals, I have seen how questioning and doubting yourself contributes to a life where you feel exposed and vulnerable. As a down-to-earth, honest, and compassionate therapist, my job is to help you understand the underlying factors that play out behind-the-scenes and how they influence the unhelpful/unhealthy patterns in your life. Therapy with me is about diving deep and taking ownership of the role you play in your life, so you can identify opportunities for long-lasting change. I wholeheartedly believe that lasting change comes from insight and knowing yourself. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you create positive experiences for yourself.
I am a lesbian-identified therapist and I make it my mission to help those in the GLBQ community come to a deeper understanding of themselves, so they can make meaningful changes in the destructive patterns that hold them back. I am dedicated to establishing a real, supportive relationship with you through your process of self-discovery, and to help you know your value and worth. It is my passion to work with you as you create the life you deserve.
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