Your sexual orientation has always had an impact on the way others see you.
It’s like a label that’s been stamped into your forehead and you feel like it’s the first thing anyone notices.
You’ve tried to change the way you interact with others, but no matter what you do, people still see you as “the gay one.”
You know that life has little meaning without relationships, but you struggle to connect with others on a deep level, and don’t understand why. You’re ready to explore yourself at a core level so you can let go of trying to fit into everyone else’s ideas and form authentic relationships of your own.
You’ve gotten really used to being judged. In fact, people assume they know you before they’ve even met you because their sister, cousin, or favorite TV character is gay. You’ve become really good at keeping people at a distance, so usually, it doesn’t bother you. You’re focused on other things right now and relationships just tend to get in the way.
It never really bothered you until recently, but lately, you’ve been wishing you had some special people in your life to share things with. Whether it’s a best friend or a significant other, you’d really like to feel a sense of genuine connection.
Your loneliness is starting to eat at you. You’ve tried the bars and clubs and even meeting people online, but no matter where you look, you just can’t seem to find anyone who wants more than anything superficial.
So, you find yourself wondering if the reason there’s no depth is because something’s wrong with you.
You’re starting to think the common denominator among all your failed relationships is you. You’re disappointed because no one really gets you, so you’ve alienated the few people who have tried to reach out and connect. Now it seems like you’ve gotten so distracted from all the good you have to offer that you wouldn’t know how to build a real relationship if you tried.
You truly want more out of your interactions with others. But you have no idea how to meet people who will understand who you are underneath your sexual orientation. Also, you’re not even positive you’re in touch with what you really want from your relationships to begin with. You need the guidance of someone who’s going to help you peel back your layers.
When You Seek LGBQ Therapy with Dr. Carol O’Saben
- You will finally understand why you seem to have the same relationships over and over
- You will be able to bring down your walls and connect with others on a deep level so you no longer feel alone
- You will start to see how habits and patterns play a role in your life and determine ways to make lasting changes
- You will be able to identify negative and painful events in your past and come to terms with them so you can move forward in a happier, healthier way
- You will feel understood and valued
The LGBQ Counseling Process
LGBQ Therapy is intended to help you get to know yourself, so you can determine exactly what it is you want from your interactions with others. Together, you and I will use the therapeutic relationship to dive beneath the surface of your life and work to clarify what is happening on an internal level to cause your unhappiness. You will work to understand the ways your past habits are impacting your present relationships and how to break out of unhelpful patterns.
The first step is a free 30-minute consult to make sure we are a good fit for working together. If either of us has reason to believe we would not work well together, I will work with you to identify some therapists who might be a better fit. If we do decide to work together, we will schedule a 90-minute initial assessment and 50-minute weekly or bi-weekly teletherapy sessions.
Before that first session, you will be invited to create a personal online portal where you will have access to all of your clinical forms as well as the ability to set up payment information. You will need to complete these forms and submit them before you begin therapy.
Sessions are held online using Zoom/SecureVideo software and you will need reliable internet to participate. Typically, counseling continues for several weeks or months, but the duration of your time in therapy will depend on the complexity of your concerns.
Here’s what to expect:
Each session is designed to capitalize on our therapeutic relationship to gain insight into the problematic patterns that are troubling you and to ensure the most healing possible. Together, you and I will connect in a comforting, virtual space with the goal of helping you reflect on the person you are and the person you want to be.
More About Dr. Carol O’Saben
As a Licensed Psychologist with almost 30 years of experience working with LGBQ individuals, I have seen how questioning and doubting yourself contributes to a life where you feel exposed and vulnerable. As a down-to-earth, honest, and compassionate therapist, my job is to help you understand the underlying factors that play out behind-the-scenes and how they influence the unhelpful/unhealthy patterns in your life. Therapy with me is about diving deep and taking ownership of the role you play in your life, so you can identify opportunities for long-lasting change. I wholeheartedly believe that lasting change comes from insight and knowing yourself. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you create positive experiences for yourself.
I am a lesbian-identified therapist and I make it my mission to help those in the GLBQ community come to a deeper understanding of themselves, so they can make meaningful changes in the destructive patterns that hold them back. I am dedicated to establishing a real, supportive relationship with you through your process of self-discovery, and to help you know your value and worth. It is my passion to work with you as you create the life you deserve.
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Who Benefits Most from LGBQ Counseling
Therapy for GLBQ individuals is best for those who notice the same unhelpful and unhealthy patterns playing out in their lives and want to make lasting changes before they start to feel defeated and hopeless. Counseling helps you reflect on the situations in your life and the role you play in them, so you can gain insight into the way your habits and experiences have shaped who you are.
You will benefit from LGBQ Counseling if:
- You keep making the same mistakes in your relationships
- You are concerned about coming out to your family, friends, employer, or those in your community
- You are missing a supportive person to talk to about your sexual orientation
- You complain about the same circumstances in your life, but you don’t know how to make them better
- You’ve tried to make changes yourself, but you feel like they never last and that you’re never going to be the type of person you want to be
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for counseling sessions with me. These situations include, but are not limited to:
- Difficulty self-reflecting and taking ownership of your experiences
- A desire for a solutions-based approach that does not explore your past or your experiences
- A lack of awareness of your role in your relationships with others
If you are currently experiencing any of these issues, I can provide you with appropriate referrals for your level of care.
What Does Therapy for GLBQ Individuals Cost?
Online Counseling is a fee for service program and clients can easily pay for services through their personalized online portal.
Intake sessions cost $250 and weekly therapy sessions are $150 thereafter.
I accept United, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, and Aetna insurance. For your convenience, I will check your insurance company’s mental health benefits on your behalf prior to our intake appointment, but I encourage you to do the same. You can use the “Verification of Benefits” form on the “Fees and Insurance” page of my website as a helpful guide for talking to your insurance carrier. Copays, deductibles or any out of pocket costs are due at the time of service.
When and Where Can I Schedule a Counseling Session?
All therapy sessions are held online via teletherapy software. I offer online counseling sessions for those living in Flagstaff and all residents of Arizona.
Counseling Services are offered Monday through Saturday with appointment availability ranging from 10 AM – 7 PM with additional appointments available upon request.
Your Next Steps
You can come to an undeniable sense of self-acceptance. It is possible to forge an identity that encompasses your sexual orientation and allows you to bond with others in a way that is genuine, unique and unlike anything you have ever experienced before.
Feeling secure about what you have to offer friends, family, and other loved ones might seem hard to fathom. But that doesn’t mean you can’t begin to know who you are on an authentic level and start to bring that forward into your relationships. You just need to learn to have compassion for yourself while you’re figuring it all out.
You will become more confident in your own skin. And you’ll also show up to others in a genuine way without having to hide behind masks and labels. In the end, you’ll love yourself in a way that makes it possible to connect with others. I can help.
Call 928.248.8005 or email Dr. O’Saben at email@example.com to schedule your LGBQ Counseling session today